Many experience vivid and meaningful dreams and visions just a few days before dying. American Journal of Hospice and Palliative Care on studying focus primarily on the perspective of the patient that most dreams are the source of personal comfort, peace, acceptance of death --- a transition from dreaming about living person to dreaming about the dead.
My beloved wife with cancer combated two and a half year with her indomitable spirit and willpower. She left me three years and six months, I still miss her a lot. I was the sole caregiver for her. I was the witness of a many incident, the most interesting is her dream.
1. During her ongoing chemotherapy she frequently dreamt that she was drowning in the river. Oneday she dreamt that she was saved by a small boy from drowning. When she shared I opined that treatment might be responding , a message of recovery. It comforted her, may be the little boy , representative of God.
2. Oneday she told me that she had been ascending steps of stairs to the temple at the top of hill but couldn't reach.
3. When the disease progressed she often dreamt of her parents ( passed away) specially mother standing near her head.
4. Oneday she told that parents were calling her.
5. She used to worship one goddess who appeared in her dream and the next morning she narrated me in happy mood.
6. At the end of her journey, she often saw in her dream that her close relatives including mother, aunt, maternal uncle,all were around her bed standing, gossiping among themselves planning something , conveying her something which she couldn't follow. It was her comfort to accept her death, days started counting, told me that they all came to take her with them. And the end came after fifteen days.
The dreams were the signposts on her journey towards her transition. When I shared with @Wilka Roig, ( Transpersonal psychologist, Death activist, Doula, Griefworker, Dream worker, President at Elisabeth kublar Ross Mexico centre) opined, " it's true in my experience that divine beings also come alongwith relatives and loved ones and they come to give comfort and confidence and to give instruction and guide the person through this process." I could feel the essence of feeling of my wife in her mind. Then onwards till her departure she had been preparing herself with confidence, accepting and welcoming the summon to set off her voyage to her own HOME. Besides Palliative care and pain management at the end she had comfort in her mind through these dreams. We two were so connected , she spontaneously shared dreams to me and I listened by heart.
#Vision of lost loved ones, a comforting presence offers solace to the dying person and the loved ones are waiting for her#.
Great. Love to read that.
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DeleteI got emotional while reading. The incidents and facts mentioned are interesting indeed. I believe this to be a matter of study and research to understand. There are loads of things beyond our reach and science cannot explain. But what we understand that a kind gesture, however small it might be, lessen a lot of pain. The cognizance of the fact that there's someone always thinking about me, caring about me, standing by my side, brings the solace and peace, boosts the confidence up, motivates to never stop untill trying the best shot.
ReplyDeleteYes, Saikat you are right. Research is needed.
ReplyDeleteThank you sharing Pranab da
ReplyDeleteThanks for your compliments.
DeleteBeautifully conveyed. I do believe that dreams are significant and often it forecasts the upcoming incidents.
ReplyDeleteThe meaning or decoding of the dream is how one understands his/ her dream. Mom still comes into my dreams whenever I am sick but that I think is the play of my subconscious mind as I seek comfort from her. The significant dream of messaging is when I don't seek comfort but still she comes, then I realise / prepare myself to be strong for something important.
Feeling and believing interrelated not to all but to one who is deeply connected to the person appearing in dream , herein lies "Unconditional love". You and your mom were deeply connected, and now still connected . You are free to share your dream to me.
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