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Healing power of Grief

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     The quote of Dr Elisabeth Kubler Ross urges me to analyse self as sole caregiver for my beloved wife with metastatic cancer that I am the luckiest person to perform the task of caregiving from the very beginning and at the end when only soft touch and physical presence beside her led her to have peaceful dignified death.
     I feel sad why you know? In the beginning of the year 2021 I have lost three of my closest friends , victims of covid19. It haunts me , can you tell me Why , because the loved ones are deprived of soft touch , conveying the last message of LOVE and even presence during the funeral. Journey of their departed soul was pretty traumatic and rankles on the mind of the loved ones. The inept handling of the covid19 in 2020 turned into a major crisis_ left an indelible scar.
       " We have survived loss. We are allowing the power of grief and grieving to help us to heal and to live with the one we lost. " " That is the Gift of Grief".--- From the Book " On Grief & Grieving" by Elisabeth Kubler Ross and David Kessler. DEATH is inevitable , one must accept the reality and try to cope up with the grief which is everlasting. Grief teaches us how to find out the way to live , may be unlike the previous one . It's not judgemental, just experience of mine, my friend matters, conveying the message of positivity. I believe what I am trying to do being in close connection with the terminal cancer patients undergoing palliative care as a nonmedical person, may be it's of little space, I am selfsatisfied . My friend losing his beloved wife, has been surviving with the songs both used to practise before and he at present is learning classical songs out of LOVE for his wife, believing her presence , no matter of physical. I must admit that support group and bosom friend without whom one cannot live well living with the company of grief.
     The power is within our mind, only to cultivate and the garden will be blooming with spring flowers.

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