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#GRIEF_CHANGES_SHAPE_OF_LIFE# " DEATH IS BUT A TRANSITION FROM THIS LIFE TO ANOTHER EXISTENCE WHERE THERE IS NO MORE PAIN AND ANGUISH. ALL THE BITTERNESS AND DISAGREEMENT WILL VANISH AND THE ONLY THING THAT LIVES FOREVER IS LOVE." ---- Dr ELISABETH KUBLER ROSS. I wonder who I am now, what's my present identity compared to the previous life before losing my beloved wife with cancer , shape of my life has been changed after sending off my heart signalling with green flag for her smooth voyage to the unknown world her OWN HOME. I am indebted to #PalliumIndia,#Caregiversaathi,#Patientsengage,#ElisabethKublerRossFoundation,#LoveHealsCancer,#EasternIndiaPalliativeCare# for great support . The death of a loved one can lead to significant shifts in one's personality, changing thought process , priority, emotional pattern, developing new interest and learning new knowledge and skills which help to ignite positivity in life, what I am now deeply connected with the vast Kingdom of Palliative care, skills in caregiving (my experience of caring for my wife) , the essence of caring for the Dying and the Grieving, Compassionate Bereavement Approaches, learning how to express my feelings and experience, being privileged to speak invited by different platforms, #still_long_way_to_go_before_I_go_to_sleep#I know. Grief is everlasting, one can't forget the loved one, may be mother, father, siblings, spouse, intimate friend, but teaches us a lot. I have learnt a many aspect while I was the sole caregiver for my beloved wife. Whenever I feel lonely, I recall the sweet memories of our conjugal life which obviously heals my pain . Grieving is a normal behavioural process, one can't get rid of. To me it's only three and a half years passed, I am tempted to mention one living example of inspiration , one of my elder brother lost his wife 25 years ago , lost his only son, but still his wife is in his heart always, he told me yesterday, he added," This is love, eternal one". He is my inspiration how to cope with the loss . Then the support groups and friends have shown me the right path to step out. I have been enriched with knowledge how to navigate Grief from #PalliumIndia,#ElisabethKublerRossFoundation#. Grief is not linear but complicated . The more grieving people engage with life, the more privilege they will receive to cope with Grief. I sometimes ask myself, " How are you feeling connected with the counseling the terminal cancer patients and caregivers and the bereaved families, and involved in advocacy of Palliative care?" My answer is, " I feel better and satisfied than the former life ". I must confess and admit that the willpower within me, ( everyone possesses) has been ignited and imbued by my beloved wife , her eternal soul, and I keep my smile on even if I narrate the journey of my wife. There are a few tips how to cope with grief.1. convey experience of pain and loss, share it.2. Be resilient,3.Enjoy music or art , sweet memories,4. Self-care,5.Join a support group. Each person grieves in different way, he/she has to find out the positive way himself/herself how to cope with the Grief.

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