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Healing through Grief

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      Yesterday the first session of education series" Healing through Grief" conducted by Elisabeth Kubler Ross Foundation has imbued me to pen my reflection and thought . In today's morning I have a conversation with the security guard of our complex who has been passing through the process of Grief for the last two years losing his wife who fought six years having undergone dialysis. I feel myself identical in some respects with the person. He is trying to cope with the grief. He has passed through Anticipatory Grief for six years  which is the " beginning of the end" in our minds." "Anticipatory grief is generally more silent than grief after a loss."--- Elisabeth Kubler Ross & David Kessler (On Grief and Grieving), the book I have been turning over the pages. The bereaved person tells me that he recalls the happy moments of touring to Puri which comforts him . He still feels the physical absence of wife specially during dinner and sleep , sadness sustains. 

     " The reality is that you will grieve forever......you will learn to live with it."-- Elisabeth Kubler Ross and David Kessler.

    Alike "Baby brain", "Chemo brain" , "Grief Brain" or Grief fog is there. During the journey of grieving neurochemicals and hormones play a role in our head. Limbic system -- a primal part of the brain controlling emotions and behaviour ensuring our survival and pre-frontal cortex-- the centre of reasoning and decision making of the brain involve emotional regulations. If this is  prolonged grief , the bereaved person will suffer a lot. We have to find out the way to cope with the grief , which of course, varies person to person and the trauma of loss may be a loved one, a pet, losing of job, losing of own dignity being illtreated and anything which is the dearest to the person grieving. So healing through Grief centres round the nervous system of our body through experience and ultimately a blessing to us . Healing of what you know? It is sadness and psychosocial pain , transforming a new person instead of the same.

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