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LIFE AND DEATH

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           My learning in this arena began with the diagnosis of Cancer to my beloved wife who , to me, was a great teacher imparting knowledge of perfect Caregiving and of the process of Dying peacefully . It has been five years over I have been privileged to be a student of Palliative Care know-how and I have been blessed with the series of Education on Life and Death, Grief and Grieving, Bereavement, Reflection on Death from the esteemed organisation: #ElisabethKublerRossFoundation, and training on Farishtey/ Death Doula from the spiritual mentor #DrAbhijitDam, of KOSISH-the hospice . I am amazed at the philosophical thought of Rabindranath Tagore, the Nobel Laureate who had suffered a series of loss in his own family, poured out his wisdom in his Gitanjali analysing and reflecting on Life and Death. To him Death is not the cessation of life, it's the renewal of life. In Gitanjali 92 we are told it's only through death spiritual truths can be realised. Gitanjali reveals the story of Soul's liberation.
    If we follow the philosophical thought of #DrElisabethKublerRoss , I have mentioned only two , we will have the inner meaning of Death, an integral part of Life. According to her Grief which is natural response is able to heal pain of the loved one left behind. 
     While in training of Death Doula teaching learning sessions imparted by Dr Abhijit Dam has opened up my eyes how to accompany the Dying person at the end for his/ her comfort leading to Healing and peaceful journey of the Soul.
     I have just started reading the marvellous philosophical book "The Tibetan Book Of Living And Dying" by Sogyal Rinpoche. Gautam Buddha began to teach the woman Krisha Gotami who lost her child and wished her child's revival by the grace of Buddha, " If you want to know the truth of life and death, you must reflect continually on this : There is only one law in the universe that never changes --- that all things change, and that all things are impermanent. The death of your child has helped you to see now that the realm we are in --- Samsara -- is an ocean of unbearable suffering."
  ❤️🙏 I am now on shore of the Ocean in a quiet and calm surrounding waiting for the Voyage to be embarked , prepared myself to accept the reality with a hearty warm welcome , on receiving the summon any day which is pre- scheduled, I don't know WHEN, but mentally I am strong to hug---.
     I have suffered loss of a number of beloved family members eg , father, mother, my elder uncle (Bore Baba) , my elder brother, my cousin brothers, and sisters,all elders to me , besides the recent loss .

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