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#QualityOfLife #palliativecare  #CancerPatients #CancerPatientSupport  #experiencematters               " Love recognises no barrier. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope." -- Maya Angelou  " Try to be a rainbow 🌈 in someone's cloud "--- Maya Angelou.             I love this quote. I am keen to share my experience stored in my heart for the last 9 years .           My first client was my one and the only beloved wife with metastatic cancer for whom I was the sole caregiver for two and a half years . I have learnt many a lesson during caregiving. In Palliative Care we often mention "Quality of Life" . Do you know what it is?         Quality of life is a subjective concept referring to individual's perception of their life in relation to their goals, expectation and the culture and value systems i...

#LIFEANDDEATH #LivingAndDying #Reflection #Change #Acceptance            My learning in this arena began with the diagnosis of Cancer to my beloved wife who , to me, was a great teacher imparting knowledge of perfect Caregiving and of the process of Dying peacefully . It has been five years over I have been privileged to be a student of Palliative Care know-how and I have been blessed with the series of Education on Life and Death, Grief and Grieving, Bereavement, Reflection on Death from the esteemed organisation: #ElisabethKublerRossFoundation, and training on Farishtey/ Death Doula from the spiritual mentor #DrAbhijitDam, of KOSISH-the hospice . I am amazed at the philosophical thought of Rabindranath Tagore, the Nobel Laureate who had suffered a series of loss in his own family, poured out his wisdom in his Gitanjali analysing and reflecting on Life and Death. To him Death is not the cessation of life, it's the renewal of life. In Gitanjali 92 we are t...

#Grief is a normal and natural response to loss, may be the loss of a loved one, may be the loss of dignity, relationship, loss of pet, loss of employment and so on.        I myself try to follow #healthygrieving not indulging in to be entangled by #unhealthygrieving , still sometimes specially in the blank evening ( no webinar, no online class) I yearn for her presence and what I do you know -- either I take a novel or story book and start concentrating in the story, or listen to music, the two were liked by my heart( wife) who is present in absence. In such a manner I transform negative unhealthy grieving to a positive healthy grieving. Today after the webinar and dinner, I am urged to pen my feelings which is the proper way of healing, sharing to you all, my friends.#Sharing_is_healing. Grieving is neither forgetting, nor drowning in the pool of tears. Grieving is the process of healing pain , of course, unique to every individual how to cope with. So I opine on m...

#caregiving_an_art  #OXYTOCIN_LOVE_HORMONE #Connection Way to Self-realization.........         "Karmanyebadhikaraste maa folesu kadachano. Maa karmofaloheturbhurma te soghohostokormani.."     In Mahabhagavata Gita Lord Krishna advises Arjuna," you do your work , don't expect any result in return " .   " Expectation is the root of all heartache " --- William Shakespeare.     Why I am writing this, you know not. I honouring my platinum jubilee year of spring without my beloved Life partner, am sometimes in oblivion that expectation in return of being beside the needy persons is an yearning, but now I have made up my mind not to expect anything in return for my spontaneous open heart service from anybody, may be a terminal dying person, may be a close relative to enjoy the beauty of happiness within me, which is solely owned by me and handed over to the worshipping Goddess, ultimate realisation in me. This is common in human being to...

 #GRIEF #elisabethkublerrossfoundation  #HealingthroughGrief       Yesterday the first session of education series" Healing through Grief" conducted by Elisabeth Kubler Ross Foundation has imbued me to pen my reflection and thought . In today's morning I have a conversation with the security guard of our complex who has been passing through the process of Grief for the last two years losing his wife who fought six years having undergone dialysis. I feel myself identical in some respects with the person. He is trying to cope with the grief. He has passed through Anticipatory Grief for six years  which is the " beginning of the end" in our minds." "Anticipatory grief is generally more silent than grief after a loss."--- Elisabeth Kubler Ross & David Kessler (On Grief and Grieving), the book I have been turning over the pages. The bereaved person tells me that he recalls the happy moments of touring to Puri which comforts him . He still feels the...